The marital custom · of Qingdao area and Shandong province are other area cardinal principle is same. Man marriage says " daughter-in-law " , woman marriage says " get married " . Outside writtening guarantee bridal appearance divides special situation, should pass act as a matchmaker, date, be engaged, send the much talk such as day, get married get married formalities.

- > act as a matchmaker

Also make protect intermediary " , by intermediary factitious men and women introduces twice, conclude marriage marriage concerns. Go-between can be relatives and friends, acquaintance, also can be special woman matchmaker, they comparative according to match of be matched for marriage, age, family circumstances wait for postulate, the bring two parties together in home of both sides of men and women going there and back, it is to the man requirement requirement wants commonly a few taller. If both sides is intended, talk about a marriage to everybody by the man. The person that talks about a marriage to the bride's side is more, the bride's side feels honorable more, namely alleged " a female a hunderd schools is begged " . If female direction the bridegroom's or husband's family talks about a marriage, meet by sarcastic for " the girl is married did not go out " . Old times, if both sides is satisfactory, two men and womens want each other to pull card of the time of a person's birth, the birth both sides of male and female year, month. Day, when each are written above, word number still must be even numbers. Ask fortune-telling gentleman " close marriage " , computative both sides belongs to photograph and birthday character 8 is " unripe " or " overcome " , if be not overcome, just but the thing of consultative marry.

- > date

Old times, newly-married husband and wife lifts a lid in Dong room just can meet when the head. Suffer go-between to prevent delusive, woman parents can ask stealthily only, the appearance that knows the man, age and go-between say whether conform to, ask about the man's humanness and domestic circumstances even at the same time. Date nowadays oneself make public essential program.

Date, also cry " opposite elephant " , be by go-between (cry now " introducer " ) in making an appointment with both sides of male and female to reach home of a third party, meet, if each other are medium, can establish amative relationship. The course interacts for many times. Think the condition is mature, with respect to arrangement the woman arrives the man " check home " . Check home often can affect marital success or failure, in drawing this man to want a home, decorate one time well, shine worthy thing, the parent also should apparel neat, some uses the thing of alien even, with showing oneself rich.

When check home, the man should prepare wine meal and ceremony inn, the woman is like satisfaction to be able to promise to stay have a meal, if cry " dad, Mom " , man parents should draw out money to give the woman, cry " meet ceremony " , this marriage calculates placed.
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